August 2021, Carelines
Siblings Who Don’t Help
The top 3 excuses from siblings who don’t help with caregiving are: “I don’t have the time,” “I don’t have the money,” and “I can’t bear to see Mom/Dad like that.”
Caregivers need to examine whether or not they have made direct requests and have actually given siblings a chance to help. Some “outside” siblings complain that they aren’t let into the caregiving circle. This does happen. A caregiver who never directly asks for help doesn’t have the right to complain about un-helpful siblings. If you’ve talked to your siblings, you’ve directly asked them for help, and you’ve explained that there are different ways they can help, but you still get brushed off or told off, what can you do next?